"We probably haven't had sex now since I got pregnant last April, so we're talking almost a year!" says 29-year-old Heather, whose a new mother to twins. "The relationship that Ben and I have has become the very last priority unfortunately." Between the demands of her babies and her post-pregnancy body, there's no time and she's just not in the mood. "My stretch marks have their [own] stretch marks! The last thing I ever want to do is have sex." She jokes that her sex life will be back in tact when the kids leave for college in 18 years, but she'd like to find a way to reconnect with her husband before then. So Rachael introduces them to Dr. Logan Levkoff, a sexologist and relationship expert who can relate. "I have a 10-month-old baby at home so I've been there. It's so common," she says. "It's a wonderful experience, but it is traumatic and it does affect our sex lives!" Women are usually physically ready to have sex about six weeks after giving birth, Dr. Levkoff says, but that doesn't mean they're emotionally raring to go. "There is a tremendous amount of anxiety, fear of pain, fear of penetration," she says, "and remember, your body doesn't even remotely resemble what it used to resemble." With all of those changes, it's helpful to start slowly as you head back to the bedroom by keeping these tips in mind. **Start out with a kiss.** "Redefine what intimacy means. There are a lot of behaviors leading up to intercourse that result in orgasm, pleasure and bind couples together," Dr. Levkoff says. "Spending time kissing and getting to know your partner again is a great way to get back into the mood." **Solicit help and create (small) bits of time to unwind.** "You have to have a great support system and the thing that I think we forgot is that for a new mom, even 20 minutes of having a cup of coffee and reading a magazine is all you need to re-energize. It's a little bit of time, so call on the support systems that you have and make time for each other again." **Help your husband understand your experience.** "Men should come to our doctor's appointments, they should ask questions, they should hear things from our doctor's mouths because sometimes if they don't it becomes a relationship issue like, 'You're not interested in having sex with me,' whereas a doctor can say, 'You know what? It might be really uncomfortable. She might not be ready for a while.'" **Remember why it's worth it to find the time for each other.** "It is important to be intimate again with your partner ... You don't want to lose that romantic and sexual connection."